Every married couple want to build a happy and
healthy marriage devoid of problems too difficult to crack. While some clearly
understand the complexities and are able to create a balance between their
individual and marital lives, others anticipate a marriage of perfection and
total fulfillment.
Unfortunately, when you finally come to the
realisation that your spouse is not the man or woman with the ability to fulfil
all your dreams, support as well as protect you, life can be lonely and
emotionally draining too. The truth is: marriage cannot satisfy all your needs
as no man has the capacity to fulfil all his/her partner’s heart’s desires;
nevertheless you can be emotionally fulfilled in your marriage.
Set your rules ahead
Marriage in itself can be very exhausting when
you consider the many sacrifices you both have to make as a couple and it can
even be more demanding if you have children and sometimes in-laws living with
you as members of your family.
Sharing your home with extended families can come
with so many complications and if you cannot manage the dynamics as a couple,
it can affect the stability of your home and affect your emotional wellbeing
too.
In order to avoid this situation, it may be
advisable to have a stern discussion on this topic and come to a favourable
agreement together, set your rules ahead during the courtship period and try to
focus on yourselves and your individual happiness too.
Build your own identity
Every man and woman wants a strong and positive
spouse and not one who focusses on their imperfections and that of the marriage
always. Spend your time and energy thinking about things you can do to engage
and enhance yourself within and outside your marriage. Find your purpose and
start to add value to your life, rebuild a fun, happier and more fulfilled you
as you gradually become emotionally fulfilled in your marriage again.
Recognise your strengths
Misery likes company; be careful of the company
you keep and how you portray your spouse and marriage to the outsiders as many
with failed marriages are looking for others to recruit. A good marriage
is that which is enriched through individual’s capacity to recognise the things
that make their spouses happy and also help them to nurture their individual
strengths too.
Build external relationships
Building external relationships with good friends
outside your marriage can boost your emotional fulfilment within especially if
your spouse also enjoys quality time socialising with friends too.
There are many significant advantages in
socialising which can be achieved in different ways either formally or
informally. The benefits are great when you rub minds with others and they can
also impact positively on wellbeing and your marital relationship too.
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